The Post-Christmas Marriage Blues – Is it Time to Contact a Family Solicitor?
(NewDesignWorld Press Release Center) -- Christmas - the perfect time for celebrating all the good things in life - such as love, family and companionship…
Or is it?
For many people Christmas can be less about having a good time and more about stress, anxiety, arguments - and divorce.
Statistics show that the long Christmas season is often a decisive factor when someone is trying to decide whether or not to end a marriage. In fact, solicitors specialising in family law report that January is the busiest month of the year in terms of beginning divorce proceedings.
There are any number of reasons why the New Year is such a popular time to seek divorce advice and these are often related to the festive period: the shock that your partner shared more than a glass of wine with someone during the office Christmas party for example, or the fact that after 30 years of marriage your spouse still can’t be bothered to get you a decent, thoughtful gift. Perhaps it is the realisation that one half of the marriage has been slaving in the kitchen for days, whilst the other half has been down the pub. Or it could be the amount of alcohol imbibed over Christmas lunch - drink loosens tongues and inhibitions and this can amplify existing difficulties, leading to some furious rows before the Queen’s speech has even started.
Of course, it is not only events on Christmas Day itself that can lead to divorce. Difficulties during Christmas are usually the final chapter of a steadily deteriorating situation - the culmination of a long series of events that have made the marriage impossible for one or both parties to endure any longer. Abuse, lack of sex, financial worries, past affairs, boredom...all these reasons can be cited as grounds for divorce and can be exacerbated by a difficult Christmas.
Things often come to a head during the festive period as the whole make up of a normal family day changes. Problems in a marriage can often be disguised or ignored during day-to-day living, as the responsibilities and time given over to work and children may not leave room for sitting down and really thinking about where a marriage is heading. At the end of a hard day, it is easier to settle down in front of the TV with a glass of wine than to bring up the fact that all is not well in a marriage.
However, come Christmas Day there is no hiding from your other half and it is one of the few days of the year that you spend together from morning to night. Co-operation is essential - from sorting out presents to dealing with relatives and getting the dinner on the table, and this can lead to a realisation that the marriage really has broken down. Sometimes, the recognition that if you can’t even spend one day together without arguing leads to a frightening thought - how can you spend the rest of your life with this person? Certainly the thought of spending another argumentative Christmas with them, and the effect that may have on the rest of the family, can lead to some difficult decisions being taken.
The recession is adding to people’s worries and Christmas is always an expensive time - for some an acute shortage of money can be the final trigger in a decision to face up to the inevitable and take the necessary steps to end a marriage.
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